2. the proper or accurate point of view or the ability to see it; objectivity
Damn shame something like this forced me to do all that… Shouldn’t have to be that way. Shouldn’t need the proverbial safe to drop on my head to remind me what is really important.
Right now my brothers, sister & I are going through a difficult stage in our mother’s life as we are helpless to watch as she begins the transition into nursing home care.
Meanwhile my father-in-law continues to beat cancer, again, regain his strength and get back on his feet.
Yet these two things, these two VERY personal things did not cause me to keep things in perspective.
No, it was hearing the story of the poor woman, whom I have never met, lose both her husband and brother in 15 minutes.
What’s wrong with me?
Is it because my mother and father-in-law are alive and these two faceless, nameless men are dead?
If that’s the case, that’s downright pathetic and I am ashamed of myself.
Nothing against the two men, but this is my mother and father-in-law here, two people I love dearly.
Why does it take death to remind us to keep things in perspective?
When you get right down to it, why do we need ANY reminder to keep things in perspective?
Shouldn’t just the sight of your child be sufficient?
Shouldn’t the warmth of your spouse’s arms as they just give you a hug for the hell of it do the trick?
Shouldn’t the morning sun or evening glow get the job done?
Unfortunately for the majority of us, it’s not enough.
I can tell you of one person who all the above is all the reminder she needs to keep things in perspective… my wife, Terri.
I don’t know how she does it but she does it. She manages to keep things in their proper perspective… most of the time. She is human after all.
But by and large she knows what is truly important in her life and what is simply meaningless white noise in the grand scheme.
So, how about you?
Do you keep things in perspective for the most part?
Or do you find life getting in the way causing you to need some reminder to keep things in perspective?